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Note: This is not your normal Pamelot post. I spouted off on Facebook the other day and decided if I was going to make it public, why not “own” my words everywhere?


Recently, two of my friends faced extreme insensitivity due to race/skin color and religious beliefs. It makes me really sad, and angry. Mostly I keep my mouth shut about my views, because they are none of anyone’s business and I don’t get on the internet to debate or push my views on others. However, I am tired of feeling wishy-washy when it comes to issues that hurt people I care about.

Sooooo, one time only, I’m going to spout: here’s your invitation to cull your friend list–start with me!

I am friends with people that are Muslim, atheist, Republican, gay, Hindi, lesbian, Jewish, Democrat, straight, Christian, bisexual, Libertarian, and any other religion, political party, and sexual identity you can come up with. My friends hail from–were born in–countries ranging from Mexico, the U.S., Canada, India, Russia, the Dominican Republic, the Czech Republic, Ivory Coast and most other African countries, every nation represented in the Caribbean Islands, Venezuela, Brazil, Colombia, El Salvador, the UK, France, Germany, Italy, Israel, Sweden, Norway, Spain, Greece, Pakistan, Iran, Egypt, and countless others. I think they’re perfect like they are and don’t ever intend to try to change them. They improve my life with their amazing range and diversity. I don’t think they’re a) stupid b) immoral c) wrong d) confused e) broken or f) in need of me to change them. I don’t enjoy posts/comments that suggest these things about others.

While I’m outing myself for things others may not like, let me put it all on the table: I have voted for all parties above plus Independent in various national elections, and I have a doctorate. I don’t think I’m always right, but I don’t think you always are either, and it doesn’t usually affect whether I want to be your friend, unless you’re condescending or rude about it. I believe there are shades of gray. I am open to cordial differences of opinion, but not in my face. I don’t enjoy debating others.

I live in a blue city in a red state. My husband and I are building a sustainable house, off the grid, and are going to work toward self-sufficiency, not as a political statement or because we’re doomsdayers, but as a personal philosophy. I support a strong military and the right to bear arms (and love the sound of the pump action on my pink shotgun), as well as privacy in reproductive rights and respect/equal opportunity. I don’t think we took the right approach to solving our nation’s problems with health care yet agree that it was broken.

I am pro-environment AND pro-jobs/employers. I believe in hard work, and helping others, strategically. I own a business, with employees. I pay taxes. A lot of them. I think the FDA sells us a load of crap. I believe in INNOCENT until proven guilty, due process, and checks and balances. I don’t trust my government, but I think it’s better than any other I’ve found. I think that people who hurt children and animals are despicable. The death penalty is barely enough for some monsters.

I work with, live with, and am friends with people of all abilities. I would legalize marijuana if given the chance, although I’ve never smoked it. I don’t drink–at all–and I’m still probably more fun than most people you know. Divorce saved me. I was raised Christian, AND I believe in one God/higher power/energy source, and a lot of imperfect humans doing their best to interpret something much bigger than them, and that the Bible/Koran/(etc. etc. etc. etc. etc.) were all written within a particular historical and sociological context by humans doing their best to interpret what they believed and/or were told, and I don’t want to argue with that, because I believe in freedom of religion and my right (and yours) to exercise it in my own life and home.┬áI don’t think Al Gore invented the internet, and I don’t think global warming is a closed issue with the idiots on one side and the enlightened on the other. I think we let our media lead us around like sheep, and wonder why more of us aren’t asking who backs which stories.

No one political party can contain me. I am your average super-moderate. I also believe a lot of other things that may piss you off. And I hate negativity most of all. I surround myself with positive people, no matter what their beliefs.

But mostly–I believe in love. Unfriend me, unfollow me, unsubscribe to me, don’t read my books, that’s OK.

Ah, that feels so much better. ~ The End


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9 Responses to Spouting Off, Just This Once

  1. Nicely done, Pamela. Nothing at all wrong with spouting off when it’s for a good cause. Keep on being a positive person with a great view on the world…’s the best way to be.

  2. If people only realized there is actually an “invisible Government” that runs the country, the media, the decisions made by its leaders, and pretty much everything else. Oh man, I better quite now…..don’t want to get me going too far on this one. If you haven’t already, go watch the Zeitgeist movie.

  3. Eric Hutchins says:

    I love you AND your opinions. What you say here matters so much to me and I love our conversations about it, and how closely matched we are on these things.

    • Pamela says:

      I lost 50 subscribers over it, and I’m trying to decide that doesn’t matter. As a writer there is a such a balance between being authentic and being neutral enough that you don’t offend anyone. I guess at some point you have to decide whether not saying anything is saying something about people and issues you care about. That time came for me, and I’ll have to live with the consequences.

      • I lost followers once because of something I posted. I think in the end, you’ll feel better getting things off your chest. The people who un-subscribed from you really need to give other people’s opinion a chance and not follow things blindly. It’s the people like that who are the kind of people the government loves…..the ones easy to brainwash.

      • It makes me sad that people choose being “right” over having relationships with others. I’ll just say right now: I don’t agree with everything you wrote in your rant, but by the same token, there’s quite a bit in there that I DO agree with. Whether my religious beliefs match up with yours, the postman, or the checker at the Walmart is of no consequence. What matters is that I’ve been taught (and taught my daughter) that we are to do unto others, to love others, to treat others with respect — just as we hope to receive the same. I tire of people who think that by being polite, showing respect, etc., they are somehow condoning that with which they disagree.

        I appreciate you and Eric and I love that while you aren’t “preachy,” you have the courage to stand up for what you do believe when circumstances call for it and damn the consequences. That’s an admirable quality — and it’s a shame those 50 people couldn’t recognize that when they unsubscribed.

        • Pamela says:

          And that in return is what we like about you and our friends (IRL, online, long distance, etc.). Agreeing isn’t always necessary. Respect, compassion, and loyalty are. It actually felt good to say, “If you don’t like that this is who I am, go away,” and to have those people leave. I don’t mind that they disagree with me. I just don’t want that rigidity in my life, and above all I want positivity. People who look at the bright side. My favorite people are those that can find the good even in the midst of disagreement and conflict.

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